Not everyone meets someone they love so much they want to give up on the things that make them hard to love in return.”

Finding someone to share your life with is not a priority for everyone. And even if it is, who says there is a soulmate for everyone? All these grand romantic ideals, how realistic are they? The best would be finding someone who loves all of you, even the bits that are bad at communicating and anoying. And to love that person just the same way. But how often does that happen? How many of us are trying to change some aspect of themselves to be suitable for a lover? Or try and want something they don’t really want out of live just to stay with someone?

And is it a realistic thing to compromise on fundamental things or is it better to hold out for the ideal? Maybe sometimes you’re better off on your own. Figure out who you are and what you want before adding an other person to the mix.

In which Eefje talks about drawing and writing blogposts

For nearly six months I’ve been able to update my blog at least once a week, but suddenly now I find that it’s been over a week since my last post. I don’t know why. It’s not for a lack of things to post about, I have two posts as drafts and an idea for a third. I just wasn’t happy with them yet so I didn’t post them.

Sometimes when I start writing something the words come easy to me, and I like the rythm of the text. Other times, like with one of the posts I had started as a draft the text doesn’t flow at all and as a result it’s very unpleasant to read. I guess that’s normal, but it still feels strange. What makes me suck when I suck and what makes me good when I’m good? I can’t tell.

Compared to other skills I’ve been working on, writing is pretty elusive. In contrast I know exactly why some drawings don’t work yet when I start something new. Lately I’ve been practicing drawing directly in Photoshop. This is a new way of drawing for me, I normally start a picture with pencil and paper and often also finish it with other analog tools. And while I have been colouring scanned sketches in photoshop for a while now, I’m still very much at the beginning of learning how to use that side of the program. So I know why I sometimes suck, it’s a part of the learing curve. When the result is not what I want it’s because I still have to get used to all the new possibilities and how to use my tablet in a way that translates what I want to achieve on my screen. And when I get used to that I will keep running into the limits of my current drawing abilities. I get that. I know my limits and try to push them.

Right now I’m also trying different drawing styles. I’m going for a more comic style because I want to become a diverse illustrator. Adding this to the photoshop learning curve is maybe not so smart (doubly hard!) but it’s interesting. I have to get my brain and hands used to doing something different. When that goes wrong I often end up with kids who have weird adult-sized arms. :p I’ve I’ve got a sketch I like and that has as correct an anatomy as I’m currently capable off, which is nice since it’s an illustration for the next issue of The Anglerfish. 🙂

Dreamy sketchbook page: beach girl and seal

Beach and Seal

While my ‘fill one sketchbook page a week’ plan failed, I did not stop drawing at all. This is the result of taking out my colour pencils again. I wanted to do a dreamy page.

A vlog about Neil Gaimans The Ocean at the End of the Lane and stories about my childhood.

There are spoilers for the book in this video, so stop watching when I warn you about them if you don’t want to get spoiled and/or get really confused about what I’m referencing.

WARNING: contains emotions. (In the spoilery part.)

Let me know what you thought about this book and how it made you feel! And also what you thought about my video. 🙂

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